Do you have questions about polygamy, and would like to ask them of those who actually live the lifestyle? Some of us here at polygamy 411 are in polygamous marriages; some are preparing to live the lifestyle; some have a general interest in the topic. We are a conscientious group of warm, friendly, kind and ...
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Polygamy/polygyny Questions & Answers Continued…
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Profiles of Women in Polygamy
Who are the women who live in polygamous marriages? Polygamy is a lifestyle that is not the norm and many women fear having to live it one day, especially Muslim women. Some women opt for a polygamous lifestyle while others find themselves in it. One of our commentators, Sister Arica, suggested we begin a thread/post ...
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Let’s Talk Polygamy
We here at polygamy 411 have formed an alliance. We are a group of men and women who are either in polygamous marriages, also known as polygyny and plural marriages or we simply have an interest in the topic. We discuss various aspects of our relationships daily. For many of us, meeting here is a ...
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The Most Righteous Wife is the Most Honorable Wife
Allah (Great and Glorious is He) says in the Holy Quran that the most honorable person is the one who is the most righteous person. I think it is safe to say the Wife with more honor is the most righteous wife. It leads one to question what ingredients one needs to make a righteous ...
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“People of the Book”
A commentator at polygamy 411 advised me that an Imam (an Islamic leader) said the Jews and the Christians still have their Books (the Torah or the Bible), which is why Muslim men can marry Jewish or Christian women (in the 21st Century). To that I say the Imams who teach such a thing are ...
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The Reason Why Men Become Polygamous
No woman will ever accept any reason(s) her husband gives her for why he married another and became polygamous. In time, a Muslim woman with understanding of what Allah swt (Great and Glorious is He) says in the Holy Quran will accept that Allah decreed everything that has happened. The man is polygamous because Allah ...
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A Muslim Man May Become Polygamous
A woman who marries a Muslim man should expect that one day her husband may marry another woman besides her. No one knows what Allah has in store for him or her. We can assume that our husbands will not marry other women besides us, but there is no guarantee. Even if our husbands think ...
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Have You Made Your Spouse Your Lord?
There are many women and men who have put their spouses before Allah, and have made their spouses their Lord. Many men and women love their spouses more than they love Allah. Perhaps they realize this and maybe they don’t. What many do not realize is that a husband and a wife could equal an ...
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Justice, Children, Women, & Polygamy
Allah (Great and Glorious is He) in the Holy Quran says: “If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or ...
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Polygamous – To Tell or Not To Tale
Should she tell her family and friends that her husband married another and her marriage is now polygamous? It is a question one of our very special commentators recently asked all of us here. I don’t think there is a hard and fast rule as to whether one should tell her parents or family about ...
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Marry a Pakistani Man? Beware!
Many Pakistani men come to the United States or the United Kingdom in search of a better life. To get it, some seek out a wife in said countries. I will use the word “foreign” when I speak of the women or wives from the U.S. and the U.K. The Pakistani men seem kind, sweet, ...
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About Polygamy 411 – A Blog About Living Polygamy
Polygamy 411 is not an ordinary content blog. I will tell you a little about how I developed polygamy 411, which is a blog about living polygamy. I began to build the blog in February 2009. Polygamy 411 is a self-hosted blog, not a hosted one. Some may ask what the difference between a hosted ...
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A Polygamous Life, Desires and Pain
We know many who live polygamous lives suffer pain, agony and heartache. One must ask oneself why it is. A person’s personal desires have much to do with it. A Muslim knows this, if he or she has a good understanding of our way of life, which is Islam. The pain many feel in polygamy ...
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Coping with Children and Polygamy
Quite often many ask questions about how children cope in a polygamous households, and what effect polygamy has on children. Although I have no children, I once was a child and I probably could be fair since I can see the picture, as I am not in the picture. I’ll share some of my thoughts ...
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Marriage and Pakistan – Culture versus Islam
We have discussed quite often here at polygamy 411 Islam and culture, and how they relates to marriage with reference to Pakistani people. In Pakistan, when it comes to marriage, what many think is Islam is very much culture, and has nothing to do with Islam. Islam is what one follows from the Quran that ...
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Is It Normal to Struggle When Our Lifestyle is Polygamous?
We probably have asked if it is normal for us to struggle when we live a polygamous lifestyle. Maybe we should ask whether it is normal to struggle in life in general. For those of us who are Muslim, we should know that Allah swt (Great and Glorious is He) purifies one’s heart through struggle. ...
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What is Just and Fair in a Polygamous Marriage?
A lot of discussion surrounds the topic of just dealings with wives by husbands in polygamous marriages. I cannot understand why, as Allah (Great and Glorious is He) throughout the Holy Quran lets us know that we should have kind and just dealings with everyone. If He places any special emphasis on just and kind […]
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Is It to Please God or Husbands?
When we do an act that is good, do we do it to please God or to please our husbands? How do we know when we have done an act to please our husbands, and not solely to please Allah who is God? Do we know the difference? Many of us have heard that Muslim […]
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You Can be Happy in a Polygamous Marriage
To be happy in a polygamous marriage you have to make it your intent. You could have a polygamous marriage and be happy in it. You must believe it to achieve it. You can’t wallow in sorrow and expect to have a positive outcome. We know the beginning stages of living a polygamous lifestyle is […]
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Polygamy 411 is not Associated with the WordPress Polygamy 911 Blog
Caution! note well: polygamy 411.com, owned and operated by ana who also owns the URL polygamy911.com, is not associated with the polygamy 911 WordPress blog. It has come to my attention that some people have confused polygamy411/polygamy911.com with an anti-polygamy WordPress 911 blog. The WordPress 911 blog is a haters’ blog in which the administrator […]
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