One of our dear blog friends here, “Ummof4″, wrote a very nice piece on “separate lives/marriages”, about polygyny. Furthermore, she shared very valuable advice on how best a man should approach and engage in a polygynous marriage. Her writing warranted a thread of its own. Ummof4 stated the following: “As-salaamu Alaikum to all, Ana, in […]
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Advice on How a Muslim Man Should Approach a Polygamous Marriage
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The Islamic Community Lacks Knowledge about Polygamy
According to one of our blog friends here, the Islamic community lacks knowledge about polygyny /Polygamy. I agree with her. Her statement inspired me to write this post. She mentioned there are Imams (An Imam is a person who leads prayer or is an Islamic leader) who urge brothers-in-faith who are already married to marry […]
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And Justice for All
To some people it may seem there is no justice in polygamy. We hear of all the heartache and pain that many, particularly women, suffer in polygamous marriages. Some have questioned why it is so. Some wives attribute the cause of it to the husbands who they say are unfair and unjust to them. Some (such as, […]
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False Illusions that seem Real
We know some women agree to marry married men (Islam permits Muslim men to have up to four wives at one time). Men are responsible for the protection and maintenance of women. Some women who agree to accept polygamy and marry married men give up their right to have the men maintain them. They don’t […]
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Can He Be Just and Fair Between His Wives?
I carefully thought about what “just” and “fair” in a polygamous marriage is. In doing so, I concluded a man cannot be “just” and “fair” between his wives when he is polygamous. Why? It is because Allah swt (Great and Glorious is He) says so. It, however, does not mean that polygamy is not permissible […]
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Love Allah More
One of our very special commentators, ummof4, the other day, reminded us to love Allah more than ourselves, our husbands or our children. It’s something that we can never receive too many reminders of. We should love Allah more than anyone or anything. There are many Ayat (verses, signs) in the Holy Quran in which […]
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What We Need to Know for a Peaceful and Tranquil Polygamous Life
Before one can live a peaceful, tranquil, polygamous lifestyle, one has to have the correct belief of our religion, which is Islam. First, one must know the Articles of Faith in Islam, which are as follows: To believe in the Oneness of Allah. To believe in all His Angels. To believe in all His Books. […]
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Where Do You Fit in Polygamy?
Where do you fit in polygamy? How would you categorize your marriage or the marriages of others involved in your union? One of our blog sisters ummof4 analyzed the different types of relationships she has read about here at polygamy 411 and she categorized them, which I thought was very good. I, therefore, have shared […]
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Is There a Lack of Communication and Respect in Polygamous Marriages?
I received an email from a 21-year-old female who was conducting research on the topic of relationships. She has read some of the stories from those of us here at polygamy 411. She thinks some of the husbands lack respect for their wives when they (the husbands) become polygamous. She believes there is a lack […]
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Allah Permits Polygamy for all Men
Usually when someone hears polygamy mentioned, they immediately think of Mormons or Muslims. We know Mormons and Muslims are some of the people who engage in polygamy. When Allah permitted polygamy, He did not permit it only for a select group of men based on religion. Most people do not know that Allah permits polygamy […]
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Polygamy, Life, and Success
Most people want to know how to have success in not only a polygamous marriage, but life in general. The key to success is the same for one who lives a polygamous life as it is for anyone else. The solution is one for all. One must have the correct belief in God to have […]
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How Marriage can Enrich the Lives of Spouses
There are Muslim men who marry women (1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th)because the men and the women believe that the marriage will enrich the lives of both of the spouses. The new wife will have some of her wants and needs fulfilled and the new husband will have some of his wants and needs fulfilled. […]
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Marriage and Shirk
Some of us have mentioned the word “shirk” in some of our discussions here at polygamy 411. It is important for us to know what “Shirk” is, as “shirk” is a sin that Allah will not forgive a person for, if the person did not repent, and did not seek forgiveness from Allah for committing […]
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Dispelling Old Beliefs about Polygyny
ummof4 is a very dear commentator here with us at polygamy 411.She shares with us her wealth of knowledge about polygyny. She recently wrote a very important reply to another commentator here about dispelling old beliefs about polygyny. ummof4 has permitted me to post some of her writings; therefore, I’d like to share what she […]
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No Head Wife in Islam
In Islam, those women who are in polygamous marriages (they married the same man) usually each have their own home. There is no such thing as “Living Joint Family” for them. Each wife is in charge of herself and her household. There is no one to lord over her. The husband should head the household; […]
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Accepting Polygamy vs. Accepting a Co-Wife
The question often arises as to whether a wife must accept a co-wife or her husband’s other wife when she accepts polygamy. Can a wife accept polygamy without accepting a co-wife? There is not much material written about polygamy. One cannot easily find the answers to one’s questions in ordinary reading material or on-line. First, […]
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Polygamy, Lust and Desires
Here at polygamy 411, we occasionally have spoken of lust and desires, but not in-depth. A very learned person recently advised me that it is not a topic I should discuss on the blog. He said to explain here at polygamy 411 about lust and vain desires as they relate to the Holy Quran would […]
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Polygamy in the Light of Ramadan
Allah, Great and Glorious is He, has allowed us to embark on another Blessed Holy Month of Ramadan. It’s a month for us to drawer nearer to Allah. A month for us to show our gratitude to Him and be thankful for all His blessings, bounties, gifts, forgiveness, mercy and much more. Many of us […]
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Marry a Pakistani Man?Beware! – Part 2
“Marry a Pakistani Man? Beware!” is a Sizzling hot topic. I want to thank all the amazing people who have visited polygamy 411, and contributed by commenting on the post, “Marry a Pakistani Man? Beware!” Due to the overwhelming number of comments we have to the post (we have nearly 800 comments), I’ve added a […]
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Feeling Pain in Polygyny
One of our very special and dear commentators here at polygamy411, “ummof4″, has contributed once again another excellent article. She wrote about polygyny, pain, and tests. ummof4 related the following: “Many wives have asked their husbands not to marry a second wife for different reasons. Some are: 1. It will cause me pain. 2. It […]
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